I am writing this sat at my desk in my office where I can look outside of my window and see the world going on around me. Imposter syndrome can happen anywhere.
I see the couple across the road head out to take their baby for a walk in her pushchair. It’s 4pm. I start to ponder what kind of lives they could live that allows them that flexibility. I wonder what they do for a living that has put them in a position like this to even ask a question like that.
Naturally, my thoughts turn to myself, because isn’t that what we always do? I think about whether I could pack everything up now and go out for a walk. I instantly feel put off by it, but have the realisation that surely my self-employed lifestyle should allow for this anyway.
Relate it to the online world and every day I feel myself growing up less and less like the girl I used to know. My story keeps changing. I keep growing. Sometimes, I can’t believe it’s me.
THIS IS WHERE IMPOSTER SYNDROME CAN BE FRIGHTENING BUT ENCOURAGING AT THE SAME TIME.
It’s encouraging, because you know that you’re learning from the mistakes you made when you were younger. But frightening because obviously you don’t want to lose sight of who you are as a person and what makes you, well, you.
Think about it this way - you’re probably different to who you were half an hour ago. That means you’re constantly getting to know yourself. Yes, it can be unsettling, but it’s also quite open and intriguing too.
You have the opportunity on a daily basis to get to know yourself and make things right within your own mind. We usually say that growth feels scary and uncomfortable, but that’s what’s good about it. It can be lonely, but think about the possibilities. Nothing good ever comes from your comfort zone.
WHY IMPOSTER SYNDROME CAN BE A GOOD THING
You know that feeling you get when you’re doing something new? Something starts happening inside your head, doesn’t it. You could be thinking about:
Starting a new project
Taking your side hustle full-time
Taking the leap
Going in a different direction
Basically doing something. And being okay that you don’t know what the outcome is going to be, or who you’ll be when you reach your goal.
Every new experience is yours to embrace. It’s not going to feel natural and imposter syndrome is bound to strike up. This applies to anything you try in your life, blog, career, everything. But it’s such a wonderful opportunity. It shows that you are alive, you have a purpose, and you’re taking action.
IMPOSTER SYNDROME IS A PART OF LIFE
It’s a sign that you’re here in the present moment. You are living, you are a human being. Of course the voices in your head are annoying, but it shows that you still care. That you haven’t lost your rhythm yet.
As I sit here at my desk, I feel whole, challenged and delighted. Over the past few months, I’ve been thinking about making some big changes in my business and I’ve been working on lots of other things too:
I made an online home for Blogging Breakthrough
Created a solid strategy for the Facebook group
Organised a set of official contributors for the magazine
Introduced some new features to the magazine (soon-to-be revealed)
Started plans for an exciting community project that I want to launch for Blogging Breakthrough
And guess what? Every single one of those things made imposter syndrome fire up inside me. Who am I to do things I don’t know anything about? And what happens if I fail?
But can you imagine if I didn’t do any of these things because I was so worried of how I’d look?
Can you imagine if all I did was publish a blog post every week and keep my head down amongst all the noise?
BY PUSHING YOURSELF, YOU MAKE YOURSELF GROW
There’s so much we miss out on on a daily basis because we’re so afraid we’re going to mess up and look stupid. But what would be even worse than that is letting life pass you by without having any stories to tell. Stories that make you who you are. It’s not about the list of achievements, the follower count or how much money you make. It’s about how you feel in your life.
How do you feel in your life? How do you want to feel?
Go after imposter syndrome. Do everything that will push you out of your comfort zone and make you question yourself. Find what makes you feel strange and uncomfortable and let it unleash your full potential. Believe in yourself enough to go through the process without knowing the outcome. Stop guessing why you’ve been put on this planet. You’ll never know the answer.
At many points throughout our lives, unexpected things happen and we have to learn to deal with them. We have to deal with relationships, education, passion. But as you gain more experience, you become less afraid. If you have an experience today you can become a new person tomorrow. And you can be okay with it.
I truly believe we shouldn’t fear imposter syndrome. What we should fear is not feeling anything at all.
The worst thing we can do is be fearful that we’ll look stupid. Because that comes at the cost of us enjoying and living our lives.